Thursday, April 14, 2011

If you don't feed you don't love?

Day one of pre-op liquid diet is done and in the books. I made it through one and i can make it through the rest. Surgery is right around the corner!

Q and I were chatting the other night about celebrating going forward. Being on the liquid pre-op diet comes during my youngest son's birthday and Easter. So no birthday cake, and NO yummy food at my parents. This  year is going to be quite different. Most family celebrations center around food in any home in America. This has to change dramatically for weight loss surgery peeps!

To have some background on me and my life, I came from a family obsessed with food. Now, they wouldn't say that any of them were obsessed with food, but they are.  All family functions revolve around getting our feed on. My Dad always cooked dinner. Mom has her few dishes she is great at, but Dad is the gourmet. He adores pork fat and lives off bacon. Emeril is his idol.

Growing up we had all kinds of different foods with tons of flavor. It made me love being in the kitchen and learned to love cooking. I love to cook, I love to eat.


A typical family gathering of us just getting together for a simple family dinner involves cheese and crackers, homemade popcorn dripping in butter and salt, some type of sausage, a hot dip and chips, a cold dip and chips.And that is all before Dad fire's up the bbq or smoker for something meaty that is going to make you drop to your knees and weep.

Dessert, who has room for dessert? Obviously this family does! There is always a sweet treat. Brownie's cheesecake, cupcakes, cookies. Food in my family=love. Feed me and that means you care.

So if I don't put my feed bag on I'm not loved? No, I think not. But now is the time in my life where I need to learn how to express my love for my family and my friends through healthy living, and eating. I need to learn how to celebrate without food.

My mother is having a hard time grasping why I am doing the surgery. I sometimes think she has it in her head that if I just tried harder to loose the weight, that I could. Sorry Mom! Been there, been doing that. It's not working.

The other day she asked me when I was getting a grill. Then she said "Oh, are you sure you want to do this surgery? It's such a waste of a good cook!"  Really? Because having gastric bypass involves removal of hands and taste buds? It removes that part of my brain that knows how to be a good cook? lol

I explained to her that I will be able to eat at some point. Is it hard now? Yes. Absolutely. But just because I cannot eat like I used to doesn't mean I can't learn to cook healthy flavorful meals. I will eat less. I will look and feel better. Oi, Mom's sometimes....lol

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